Month: December 2018
Episode 39: How To Screen Clients (Red Flags To Watch Out For)
How To Screen Clients (Red Flags To Watch Out For)
In the final episode of 2018 Chantel and Vivian ask the most important question from the owner of a screening and advertising directory RSAVS (formerly RoomService2000). Learn the tips and tricks from an expert in screening. Let’s end 2018 on a high note and start 2019 on a safe one! Happy New Year to all of our wonderful listeners and supporters.
Zada Freespirit
Femme Fatale December 26, 2018
Date Idea:
Vivian would like to give Tampa a chance to redeem itself as a fun city. For this date idea, Zada and Chantel can take the 3 of them, plus a generous suitor, on an unforgettable evening showing the best of Tampa.
What's In The News:
From the New York Post, Nov 5, 2018: The truth about men who pay for sex (By Kate Iselin who is also companion)
- All it takes is a quick look at any media featuring sex workers to see where people would get the idea that most of the clients are creeps.
- Films and TV shows cast clients as either sinister perverts who slither around in the darkness waiting for workers to attend to them with a whip and a cane, or drug-addled millionaires looking for more Barbie-lookalikes to fill their yachts with for the weekend.
- Then there’s the way sex workers are represented in the news. We’ve all seen the stock photo: a hand extended from a car window, beckoning a pair of legs toward it.
- Not only is this a misrepresentation of what sex work actually is, but it’s also dehumanizing to both the client and the companion.
- The majority of people who visit sex workers — whether they visit strip clubs, brothels, see private workers, or simply download some good, old-fashioned porn — are as normal as you and me.
- They have jobs, and hobbies, and families, and social lives, just like anyone else. Many are great conversationalists, and a huge majority are respectful, caring and kind.
- So why does the myth continue to exist? Why do we think all clients are nasty creeps? It’s the heavy stigma around sex work that carries over to our clients, too: It comes from fear. If it’s difficult for some people to comprehend being a sex worker, or seeing one, so their first instinct is judgment and fear.
- Companions provide a luxury service. Although we might be important to many, we’re are not in the same class as food, shelter and water.
- Many people envy luxury items because they can’t afford it, so they turn around and hate on it. At the end of the day, it all boils down to individuals and their ‘morals”.
Fan Questions & Feedback:
From: Online form on show’s website
Subject: New Listener fellow companion
Message: Hello Lovely Ladies,
I’m a fellow companion who is based out of Toronto Canada. I took a four year hiatus and I’ve now we re-entered the industry, I’m quite excited and a little nervous. I decided to try to find some podcasts about escorting to get inspired and to shake my nervousness and I came across yours today. I’m so happy that I found your podcast. It’s so refreshing to listen to. I just finished listening to podcast #29 and I have a question, how do you transfer money you receive while touring to different countries into your account? Do you accept cash, PayPal, etransfer etc…?
Thanks for taking the time to read this. I’m off to listen to more of your wise words!
Warm Regards
From: Online form on show’s website
Subject: Dilemma
Message Body: Hi Ladies !
I’ve been a fan of the podcast and I have been following your advice. I started escorting in London, UK in September and I’ve been doing quite well. Most of the experiences with my clients have been amazing so far. Unfortunately, my most recent client (haven’t seen him before) turned up to the booking with “snowflakes/party substances” and appeared to have used some prior to the booking. I ended the booking after an hour as I felt too uncomfortable to proceed. He paid me for two hours of my time and left without too much hassle.
Is it the norm to get clients like him? If so, what are some of the things to look out for and how can you keep yourself safe?
Kind regards
From one of our femme fatales via Twitter DM
I was wondering if you guys could touch on or even just mention that this is not how you find a mentor (I’m not even a mentor to begin with nor do I know this girl at all). “Tagging along” in appointments is so beyond odd and not discreet
Hello,
Firstly I’d like to congratulate you on the success of your podcast. As a newbie I have found it a resourceful tool in navigating the world of escorting – especially as an ebony escort.
I write this email as I am after some further advice about freestyling and how it works/differs from escorting. I listened to episode 27 and tried to get as many tips as possible, but I am still unclear about whether or not you approach meeting men when freestyling as you would as would as an escort.
For example you mentioned never to bringing up money and to think about the long-term benefits. Do you mean freestyling at high end restaurants and hotel bars isn’t for picking up escort clients but more for sugar type arrangements? Should I be freestyling with the objective of finding men who will buy me gifts instead of giving me money for sexual services? In your opinion is the freestyling technique better at different times and days of the week? For instance,when freestyling in hotel bars should I be looking out for businessmen during the week or vacation/partygoers at the weekend in Knightsbridge/Mayfair? Can you also tell me if I should ever disclose I am an escort (business cards with my escort info) or do I make up a false profession and indicate I want to be gifted/pampered. At what point and how do I tell the men I want money/gifts – I mean how does one get the loot lol?
I apologise if my questions seem obvious, but I have been very unclear about this way of working for some time now and I see so many women on Instagram freestyling and I too want to be successful at it.
If you could offer any further advice I would really appreciate it.
Many thanks
Episode 38: 12 Things You Should NEVER Ask A Companion
Rather its nervous banter or general curiosity, there are somethings a true gentleman would never ask their companion. There are million subjects you can discuss during your date be the 12 on this list are a major NO-NO! Keep your dates light hearted and keep these questions far away.
Episode 37: How To Be Photoshoot Ready – Conversations With A Top Glamour Photographer
How To Be Photoshoot Ready: Conversations With A Top Glamour Photographer
Photoshoots are one of the most important aspects of your business! This episode will get you ready for your next shoot. Chantel and Vivian interview their personal photographer Paul Cabo of Sexy Lux Studios.
Whitney Vale
Femme Fatale December 12, 2018
Date Idea:
A lovely gentleman fly Whitney, Vivian, and Chantel to New Zealand for a surfing date.
What's In The News:
From Star Telegram, November 8, 2018: Mother/son tried to sell dozens of girls for $2,000 each to undercover cop, feds say
A mother/son-run “prostitution operation” was broken up in Dallas and the duo is now facing charges in federal court, according to a criminal complaint filed on Oct. 30.
The 9-page complaint, which was unsealed this week, details an undercover operation by the Dallas Police Department to purchase more than a dozen girls for commercial sex from Daniel Mendoza Jr. and his mother, Helen Kim.
According to the complaint, an undercover informant met with Mendoza on Sept. 14 to discuss purchasing about 18 to 20 girls for a night.
They made a deal that the informant would get 20 girls for about four hours for multiple men. The sex would be “girlfriend experience.” The document says “the girlfriend experience in the commercial sex realm refers to sex without a condom, and that kissing is allowed during the commercial sex encounter.”
The price, Mendoza told him, would be around $2,000 for each girl for a total of $40,000. He told the informant that the price would include the girls “doing it more than once” and that his mother, Kim, would inspect the hotel first to make sure it was safe for the girls. They also discussed the informant getting pictures of the girls, or meeting some of them in person at massage parlors or spas prior to the night.
Kim also required that half of the money be given to her in advance, the document says.
At the end of a meeting between Mendoza and the informant on Oct. 2, Mendoza warned that, “the way this is set up, it could be considered human trafficking,” the document says.
Between that meeting and Oct. 5, the men negotiated Kim’s upfront payment down to $5,000, the document says.
On Oct. 16, Kim, the informant and an undercover detective met so Kim could introduce the men to three of the girls and get the first payment. They also finalized plans for the men to have the girls on Nov. 1 from 8 p.m. to 12 a.m., the document says.
On Oct. 24, the document says that Kim confirmed with the men that she scheduled 25 girls to be ready Nov. 1 in case some of them got sick or backed out.
Both Mendoza and Kim were arrested last week and are charged with using a facility for interstate commerce to promote a business enterprise for prostitution.
During their first court appearances on Nov. 2, Mendoza was given a court-appointed attorney. Kim said she would hire her own.
Fan Questions & Feedback:
Via email – Vivian posted a tweet asking clients to voice any problems they had while attempting to book a companion and this gentleman responded thoroughly via email:
Vivian had responded to his tweet stating that he had issues giving out his real life info. “What about these ladies made you uncomfortable with giving your real life info?
He wanted to remain Anonymous
Around SESTA/FOSTA time, it was pretty challenging to find a provider that I was comfortable giving screening info to. As a result, I switched over to exclusively P411 providers but even that became concerning when I suspected I was in communication with LE. Short summary below if you want to the know the details. I don’t want to make the case with just one specific instance. I try to be as objective as possible.
Many providers request real life screening info which I have no problem giving provided I can validate the provider is active on some platform (twitter, instagram, reddit, w/e). The challenge is that some providers are requesting that info with no active social media. This doesn’t apply to either of you obviously or the many that bring it up on Twitter. But as we know, even with Eros’s strict ad requirements (ID/Passport/etc), there’s still fake ads using other provider’s pictures/bios.
TSEG is a unique position to reach out to both providers and clients. Twitter is a bit of a bubble in the sense that you have providers siding with providers and clients siding with clients. Usually any debate devolves into one side vs the other with no minds changed. I don’t think any serious client has an issue with screening, but I haven’t really seen a substantive discussion about what screening means today. Times have changed. LE is receiving federal subsidies to pursue prostitution and having a website and paying for ads is probably insufficient verification for many clients going forward.
Again I’m not questioning screening practices in any way. Just pointing out that screening today is totally different than it was just a year ago. Clients are expected to do everything that we never did: give out identifying info, real phone numbers (no burners or app numbers), place of employment, etc. There’s lot of clients (usually anonymous) on Twitter that will harass and berate a provider for requiring real life info. Often arguing that providers blur their faces and don’t use their real names. Etc. @LadyKamala has been a great advocate for extensive screening and how it’s necessary for safety. Unfortunately, I don’t think framing the discussion around the safety the provider will change many minds. Likely those clients will just move onto another provider.
However, most don’t realize that a balance has been struck on its own. Like I mentioned earlier, there’s scammers or LE ripping off pictures/bios and even paying hundreds of dollars to post ads on Eros, making fake wix sites, etc. The only real way for a client to verify a provider is some sort of ongoing verification through social media. Providers want more detailed screening info and clients want more visibility/accountability. Hence, the huge influx of providers on twitter, instagram, etc. I think that is sufficient to convince most clients to provide identifying info. Also, there’s no reason that providers can’t monetize that new level of engagement either (niteflirt, premium snapchat, onlyfans/etc.) Maybe on the podcast, try framing the idea of screening around increased accountability/visibility on both sides rather focusing the concept of screening around provider safety exclusively.
In my case, Twitter has largely alleviated that problem of providing identifying info. It’s been a lot easier to verify a provider is real. Another big one is Wish Lists/Gift Cards. Like in your cases, I sent you both gift cards which you both redeemed and you’re both active on twitter. So I have no issues sending either of you identifying info. It’s not like LE would be able to redeem the gift card.
Assuming I haven’t scared you away, I would be happy to provide you with screening information. I see you’re both on P411.
==
Short summary:
Contacted P411 provider, she asked for ID. I knew that was the norm now thanks to Twitter. I told her I would after doing some verification. She had a suspended twitter, website also removed within the last 30 days. Found an archived copy of her website and her wishlist. Sent her a gift card. She acknowledged receipt but never redeemed it. Before I can even come back and tell her I’m not able to verify her (<24 hours), she asks to confirm the time and place and no longer needed my ID. Not only that she mentioned a specific sexual act and say it was going to be X amount. I politely said I was unable to verify her and could not confirm the appointment. No response after that.
Episode 36: The Advantages Of The New Tax Laws For Companions
The Advantages Of The New Tax Laws For Companions
It’s the time of the year again! That’s right, it’s tax season. Mary Lee from Companion Tax is back to let you know how to get prepared and the importance of paying your taxes. It’s time to start treating your business like a business!
Keri Exotic
Femme Fatale December 5, 2018
What's In The News:
CPA Practice Advisor – Sept 20,2018 – Miami Escort Service Evaded $550K in Taxes
- We reported earlier this year that Dennis Zarudny — owner of Elite Miami Escorts and Elite Escort Service — had been charged with eight counts of tax fraud in 2017.
- Well, he was just sentenced to two years in prison.
- Zarudny initially admitted to filing false corporate and personal income tax returns with the IRS in 2011, 2012, 2013 and 2014, “which substantially underreported his business income, ” courts records show.
- “Zarudny allowed his customers to pay for by cash, check, and credit card,” the U.S. Department of Justice said in a statement Friday.” He reported income from credit card transactions but did not fully report the income he received from customers who paid in cash and check.”
- As a result, the IRS took a loss of $558,772, records show.
- In addition to jail time, Zarudny will serve one year of supervised release. A court hearing to determine restitution is scheduled for Dec. 7.
Fan Questions & Feedback:
From our Apple’s podcast page,
On Nov 14 LeXie0526 wrote: A not so vanilla fan: I adore this podcast and the ladies hosting it. I definitely has increased my sense of self confidence and expectations of men. I look forward to gracefully entering into a not so vanilla lifestyle. Keep up the amazing work ladies. I can’t wait for the book.
On Oct 13 eb763 wrote: Kudos to all of your hard work! I can’t thank you beautiful ladies enough! I needed this podcast in my life! Cheers! Xoxo, Kam
On Sept 19 apmemphis wrote: Thanks ladies I just want to thank you beautiful divas for sharing the knowledge of this industry, because of what I’ve learned I’ve become a better companion. I am now doing better business wise than I ever imagined possible, so once again thank you!
Via email
Subject: Fan girling
Hi Vivian and Chantel,
Let me start by saying how much I adore the show! The two of you have such amazing chemistry and are so dynamic. It’s such a pleasure to listen to you intelligent, multifaceted business ladies. I now look forward to Wednesdays and they are made that much brighter thanks to you!
I dipped my toes into the world of companionship right as SESTA/FOSTA started wreaking havoc. I don’t know what the industry was like before this legislative train wreck, but your podcast has been a guiding light on how to succeed in this new-to-me world. 🙂 Recently, I have made to decision to fully dive into the industry and want to thank the both of you for giving me the tools to do so safely. I’ve learned so much from you and have also been encouraging my clients to listen and donate to the show. Thanks ladies!
Via email
Subject: Thanks for a great show! Dear Vivian and Chantel, Over the past few weeks, I have binged through every second of the 35 episodes of TSEG. That’s 45 hours! Like any good fanboy, I wanted to write to express my appreciation for you and the amazing work that you do. (And not just by writing Thank You—I’ve made my donation, too!) You’ve taught me so much, and I am confident that I will be a better client thanks to your show. Like many clients, I started off (about 2 years ago) by reading reviews on The Board That Will Never Be Named. I didn’t know any better, and seeing multiple positive reviews on a companion gave me confidence that she was real, and would provide a good experience. Post-FOSTA, I was concerned about how I would find any new companions. Thanks to your insights and suggestions, I now see that this new world is really much better without that Board! I’ve enjoyed following different ladies on Twitter, getting to know their personalities, exploring their web sites, and I’m looking forward to making great connections and memories soon. (I haven’t booked my first post-TSEG-binge date yet.) The few companions that I have booked in the past are truly some of the most intelligent and genuine human beings that I’ve ever met. During each of my dates with a companion, I always think, Wow, I can’t believe she’s real!And I also think, I can’t believe this is so easy! All I have to do is be honest during screening, follow her instructions, treat her with respect, and be clean, courteous, and timely.The experience has always been amazing and more than worth it! Guys … it’s NOT THAT HARD! Thanks again for the enlightening experience of listening to TSEG. Keep up the great work. And by the way, You laugh just the right amount! Thanks, -E
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