Episode 43: Gentlemen! 3 Things To Focus On In 2019

Gentlemen! 3 Things To Focus On In 2019

Gentlemen! Chantel and Vivian want you to have a fabulous dating life in 2019 so listen to this episode to know the top 3 things you should be focused on. You will be date ready in no time! 

Marcela Alonso

New York City, NY

What's In The News:

From GuestofaGuest.com – Jan 18, 2019: Upper East Side Restaurant Nello Bans Single Women From Eating At The Bar

  • This article was written about a first hand experience by jet-setting creative executive, Clementine Crawford.
  • “I perched at my favourite seat at the bar and started to respond to all the emails that had arrived on the flight over,” she explains. “A waiter approached – a familiar face, but oddly hesitant on this occasion. He advised – with evident embarrassment – that I was no longer permitted to eat at my usual spot and that I must now sit down at a table.”
  • When she returned a few days later, she was told to move yet again. Then, from her new table, she watched as a fellow regular – a male one, that is – was served his meal without incident while perched on a stool at the bar. After speaking up, Crawford learned “that the owner had ordered a crackdown on hookers” and assumed management believed “upscale escorts working the bar lowered the tone of the place and would be less obvious if escorted behind a table.”
  • She spoke to an owner, explained that she had been misidentified, and he responded “that he could run his business as he pleased, and that [she] was no longer welcome to eat at the bar, only at a table.”
  • The restaurant in question was Nello, a Madison Avenue eatery frequented by the likes of Beyoncé and Sarah Jessica Parker.
  • Now, Nello should also be known as a place that discriminates against women – especially the empowered, out-on-her-own, pays-her-own-bill woman. The woman many men use as an example to “prove” that sexism isn’t real, because, after all, there are now female CEOs in the world!!! Crawford put it best when she wrote, “All these years we have been battling for a room of one’s own; and, little did we know it, but we are still fighting for a seat at the table (or bar, apparently).”
  • Of course, there are layers of shittiness to unpack here. It’s not just the fact that at this so-called “sophisticated” establishment, all unaccompanied, attractive women are unquestionably considered sex workers, it’s also the fact that there’s a “sex worker seating policy” in the first place. Shouldn’t a professional woman (in any field?) who can afford her meal be allowed to eat where she pleases?
  • The answer is yes – and it most definitely shouldn’t be at NELLO
  • You can follow Clementine on instagram where she posted about it and read some of the ignorant comments from fellow women! Of course there she had some supporters too, but it always shocks us when women argue against their own interests! Her instagram is @clementineteniqua

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I first of all want to say that I enjoy your podcast. I have listened to every episode and I am thoroughly entertained by both you and Chantel’s energy.

I remember in episode 36 you spoke on being cock blocked by a wealthy man’s wife during a freestyle gone wrong at a restaurant and you mentioned having ‘vanilla cards’. I am a current fitness instructor and teach regularly in between seeing clients. Would you suggest using my fitness platform as a ‘vanilla’ card to slip to potential clients when freestyling? Business cards are a must in certain situations, however potential clients would never accept a business card that is not discrete and deflecting from your elusive profession. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.


Emailed to us

Hello ladies,

I’m interested in becoming a high end companion in the business. I currently work a corporate job, but after listening to your podcast I’m interested in supplementing my income by doing this type of work. In some of the earlier episodes you guys mentioned an ebook for a ‘how to guide’, however i wasn’t able to find it.

  1. Do I need to make a website if this is a part time job?
  2. How can I protect my identity?

3.What websites should I start on, or do i need to meet them in person?

Thank you so much,

Top 3 Things Gentlemen Should Focus On:

  1. Research your companion thoroughly before contacting her – In 2019 you can no longer use the excuse of not knowing if your companion is real, as a cop out from screening or giving deposits. Practically all reputable companions have a strong online presence – their websites, twitter, instagram, and some sell content and other services via onlyfans, niteflirt, snapchat, fancentro, etc. Be proactive the same way you would when researching a vacation destination. You want to make sure you have a wonderful time when you’re on vacation, so you do extensive research on the area, hotels, restaurants, night life, etc. You should have that same energy when you’re looking for a companion. When you find a companion you’re smitten with, please fight the urge to quickly text or email her the usual “available now?” Instead head over to google and type in her name. Pay attention to the things that pop up. We will tell you now that if she doesn’t at least have an ACTIVE twitter account AND a website, she’s probably not the one. If she has other social media platforms, even better. After you’ve identified that she’s the real deal and the one you want to meet, don’t stop there. Head over to her website and read it thoroughly to make sure her policies and rates work for you. Then and only then should you contact her IN THE WAY SHE HAS ASKED YOU TO ON HER WEBSITE, and you must give her everything she has asked for in ONE email (some ladies have online forms which has everything she needs). It’s there to make your life easier. For some reason guys would rather email than use the form which creates extra work for everyone. If you must email her, please don’t drag it out and make her pull teeth to get the information she needs out of you. If you follow this simple advice, you will find yourself in the company of some of the best women in this industry.
  2. Pre-booking in advance – and if you do it with a deposit, even better. In 2019 we are not doing last minute appointments because quality ladies hate rushing and we need time to prepare for you so that you can have the best experience from us. Think and plan ahead. We are not all sitting around in lingerie at home waiting for you to call us 30 minutes before your session. We all have and live full lives so you MUST book at least 4 hours in advance, and to be honest, the more time you give us, the better. 24-48 hours is actually better. We know of many men (who are actual clients of ours and our friends), that book out weeks in advance with a deposit. They are some of the happiest men in this industry. Join them in a life of bliss by taking the time to pre-book in advance.
  3. Experimenting with different date ideas – As of this episode, you have 43 date ideas from me and we even dedicated and an entire episode (35) to date ideas, where we gave you 7 additional fun things to do with your companion. Gentlemen, we know that some of you are pressed for time and can only spend an hour or two with your companion. But if you can, you should try at least once to book a lady for a dinner date or overnight and actually go out and do something fun. Don’t even worry if you don’t know what to do, because your companion has a ton of ideas, I assure you. Try something new, think outside the box, your experience will be dramatically elevated. Also a side note, get your ATF a gift every now and then to show how much you value her efforts to bring you wonderful experiences. I guarantee you that she will want to ravish you right there on the spot! If you don’t know what to get her, simply ask. Or look on her website. Most ladies have wishlists. We hope your dating life in 2019 is super spectacular!