Top 3 Things To Focus On In 2019

On the last episode the ladies told you what not to worry about, so this episode they give tips on what to focus on. Drop the negativity and let’s prosper!

Vivienne Masters

Miami, FL

What’s In The News:

From Reason.com, Dec 21, 2018: Congress Ramps Up War on Sex Workers and Their Customers With Secret Votes on Four New ‘Protection’ Laws

• Congress is now “strengthening federal efforts” to be tough on sex buyers, based on the false idea that customers of consenting adult sex workers drive demand for minors
• All state and local cops, prosecutors, and judges are to be trained on “best practices for prosecuting buyers” of sex and how to use asset forfeiture in these cases.
• A federal working group on the study of sex-buyer arrests will also be created.
• In addition, Congress “clarifies that commercial sexual exploitation is a form of gender-based violence,” whatever that means.
• Meanwhile, in the Senate, Majority Leader Mitch McConnell was using the process to usher through four bills at the intersection of law enforcement, human rights, bureaucracy building, and foreign diplomacy. In addition to the Frederick Douglass Act, the following bills also passed the Senate by unanimous consent:

• The Abolish Human Trafficking Act (S. 1311)
• The Trafficking Victims Protection Act of 2017 (S. 1312)
• The Trafficking Victims Protection Reauthorization Act (S. 1862)

• The chambers are now resolving differences on all three before sending them to President Donald Trump for signing. The total package includes a mixed bag of policies and funding priorities.
• Tucked in some tiny sections are significant changes, some that go way beyond human trafficking. For instance, a section of S. 1311 would allow state law enforcement to use secret wiretaps on sex workers and their customers.
• Another “amends the federal criminal code to authorize the Department of Justice (DOJ) to bring a civil action to stop or prevent criminal offenses related to suspected forced labor, sex trafficking, or sexual abuse.” This would give the DOJ more leeway to preemptively shut down businesses while building a criminal case.
• They set aside more money for Customs and Border Protection “to expand outreach and live on-site anti-trafficking training for airport and airline personnel”—efforts that have so far yielded a host of high-profile stories about profiling interracial families and not a single confirmed story involving actual sex traffickers.
• I know this all sounds like more bullshit and is hella depressing but one good thing came out of this whole debacle.
• For nearly two decades, the feds have been leading and supporting anti-human-trafficking efforts with little accounting for the money and time spent or the results. Now, Congress is instructing DOJ to report on the methodology it uses “to assess the prevalence of human trafficking.” In addition, federal crime reports are instructed to start measuring instances of child-labor violations, assisting or promoting prostitution arrests, and solicitation for commercial sex arrests.
• Congress also tells the government-funded National Center for Missing and Exploited Children “to make publicly available the annual report on missing children and the incidence of attempted child abductions.”
• And it asks for more accountability from Homeland Security Investigations (HSI) about trafficking-related investigations. HSI is involved in all sorts of prostitution stings around America, especially ones involving Asian massage parlors.
• For at least a decade, lawmakers have made a big deal about introducing, supporting, and passing bills related to sex trafficking. Interestingly, there was little fanfare from folks in Congress about the passage of these measures. It seems that when these efforts aren’t full of sex panic and high-profile targets like Backpage, there’s little glory in claiming credit for them.

Fan Questions & Feedback:

From: Online form on our website

Subject: Gems

Message Body:

I was listening to the most recent episode with your story about the sugar daddy and was wondering if you’d be able to list the qualifying questions to ask men when I’m freestyling in the future.

I’m actually originally from Florida and have been in DC for over a year now and this podcast helped me get into the business seriously. So for that I thank you!

My website is currently being done by PS group and should be done in the new year. I hope this message finds you well and thank you in advance for any info you can provide

Hi Vivian!

I hope you are doing well. I just listened to podcast 36 and had a question for you specifically. I am rebranding for 2019 (which is why I have delayed joining the Little Black Book) and I would love to order business cards to take with me when I go out. Many ladies have mentioned business cards before, but none have really stated what they actually include on their cards. Would you mind giving me advice on what should be on a companion business card, or would you mind showing me what yours looks like?

Thank you so much

Top 3 Things To Focus On:

On the last episode, we gave you 3 things to stop worrying about in 2019. So we thought for this episode we should also give you things that you SHOULD be focusing on in 2019 to grow your business and thrive.

1. Marketing Yourself & Brand – In 2019 we all need to be reminded that without paying clients you won’t make any money, which means you won’t be successful! Clients need to know you exist or you won’t get any bookings. So we want you to sit down and really strategize on how you plan on marketing yourself to the clients you want in 2019, keeping in mind that consistency is key! Your mission every single day is to do things that put money in your pocket! Read marketing books and blogs if you have to. Pay attention to how the successful girls in your area market themselves and make sure you do right by yourself by putting 100% into your marketing efforts. So before you tweet something, or post something on instagram or snapchat, or do anything period. Ask yourself “is this going to attract the clients I want to meet?” We suggest that you read the book “The One Thing” to help you with staying on task. And that also leads us to remind you to READ EVERY DAY! Blogs, news articles, books. For those who rather listen to a book, amazon has audible which is a monthly membership. Amazon also has a kindle membership where you can read unlimited e-books for a low monthly fee. Treat your business like a business and YOU are the CEO!
2. Your existing clients – We’ve mentioned a few times on the show that it is a lot cheaper and easier to retain existing clients than it is to market to get new ones. Regulars are the gifts that keep on giving. All the successful companions today won’t be where they are without their wonderful regulars. So make sure you treat them like gold, especially if they are booking multiple hours with you. Be thoughtful and treat them like they are special because they are. You want them leaving your presence feeling wonderful, like they are on cloud nine EVERY TIME THEY SEE YOU. This is THE key to becoming a successful companion. If you ignore this advice, you’re going to be one of those girls who constantly bitch on twitter about how slow everything is. Do be that girl!
3. Saving (To Invest) – Most ladies (both in and out of the companion business) spend EVERYTHING they make. Then when the unavoidable emergency happens, they have no safety nest and are forced to use a credit card which charges ridiculously high interest rates and they end up digging themselves into the rabbit hole of debt and everything feels hopeless. According to CNBC, 1 in 3 Americans have less than $5,000 saved for retirement, and 21% of Americans have NOTHING saved at all! Let’s not become a part of this statistic. If you feel like you have a ton of debt and this all seems overwhelming to you, it’s ok because you can start with baby steps. The first thing you need to do is save $1,000 for emergency. This is a very attainable number so just start TODAY slowly stash away money until you reach $1,000. After this, you should COMMIT to saving 10% of everything you make while simultaneously chipping away at your debt. Start with the one with the highest interest rate. You should also track your earnings and your spending. The app Mint is great for tracking your spending. It gives you daily and monthly snap shots of your spending, and even gives you suggestions on how you can save on specific bills. We highly recommend this because if you don’t even know how much you’re spending every month, how are you going to know how to stop the bleeding? Bleeding out money every month is no fun and can get depressing so take charge of your finances. Our sponsor, Companion Tax offers financial planning services so feel free to contact them if you rather have outside help to get the ball rolling. You can visit them at companiontax.com and use the code TSEG2018 for a free consultation. Most wealthy people spend less than they make, they pay attention to where their money goes when it is spent, they save, and they invest their money. There’s no reason why we can’t all do this and thrive as a community. I’m sure we all know that the people with the money are the ones that control the world. Imagine if the adult entertainment industry actually had lobbyists, like all other industries. We would have much more control over the current laws than we have now. Think of the bigger picture. And if you can’t do that for some reason, ask yourself, do you want to HAVE to work until you die? If the answer is no, then take the first step to financial independence by taking charge of your finances. We are actually going to be interviewing a now retired companion who used the money she earned as an adult entertainer to invest and set her up for life where she no longer has to work. Ask yourself, do you want to live a life by default or a life YOU DESIGNED?

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3 Things To Stop Worrying About In 2019

We’ve all heard the sayings “new year, new me” and “out with the old, in with the new”, so for 2019 we are ditching those tired mantras! Instead  of completely reinventing yourself the ladies give you the top 3 things to stop worrying about and becoming a more successful companion.  

Date Idea:

A lovely gentleman takes Chantel, Vivian, and Valencia on a romantic fun getaway to Cabo, where the ladies can frolic with their natural hair. 

What’s In The News:

From Huffington Post, Nov 29, 2018: Nobody Would Hire Me Because I Was A Sex Worker. So I Started My Own Company. Written by former Domme Amy Boyajian

• When people ask me how I got into sex work, I say it just happened. To be honest, sex work scared the shit out of me.
• I’d love to say I donned my latex body suit in the name of sexual freedom, feminism or just generally being a badass. The fact is, I entered my career as a dominatrix with sheer terror.
• I do have a lot of privileges in this society (I’m white, cisgendered, able-bodied, etc.), but I was finding it hard to hold down a job because of my immigrant status and mental health. I was living paycheck to paycheck, in a windowless room far off the L train in Brooklyn. My panic attacks came as often as the rats in my kitchen (frequently).  
• My life was vibrant with queer parties and provocative art projects, but it was lacking purpose and direction. Sex work gave me that direction. In fact, it changed my entire life
• I couldn’t fathom the roadblocks sex work would create in my future, but I was finally able to free myself from the anxiety of my credit card getting declined while trying to buy food
• After a few years, I experienced sex worker burnout, a term used to describe the emotional and physical exhaustion and stress from overwork in the sex industry. The job itself was difficult at times, but it wasn’t necessarily the work or the clients that left me feeling this way. The feelings of isolation and loneliness from how I was perceived and treated by others really got to me.
• I became an almost unreal character to other people. To them, my job defined who I was, and I didn’t feel respected as an individual. I was either perceived as dumb for using my body to make money, immoral for having such a profession, or a novelty, like a clown at a party.
• I started to browse hiring websites to look for a job that could help me get out. It was finally when I experienced a horrific act of sexual violence by a police officer, that I called it quits completely.
• I started looking for a new job to refocus my life and my finances. But no matter where I applied, even at “feminist” sex stores or progressive establishments, I was rejected. No matter how I arranged my resume, highlighting my business degree or more than eight years of management experience, whorephobia followed me.
• I had friends who guaranteed me I could get a job at their place of employment, only for them to come back later saying their manager saw my previous job as a “liability.” When I did get an interview, I quickly realized my interviewers simply didn’t understand what my previous work was. A gasp came from a person interviewing me as I explained what a dominatrix is, while another simply ended the conversation on the spot. I found it infuriating that in a society that constantly tells sex workers they need to get a “real” job, nobody would actually give me a chance.
• My boyfriend encouraged me to examine what would truly make me happy and motivated.
• Together we created Wild Flower, which merged a space for sexual learning with resources and products to support that within an inclusive environment.
• It seemed overwhelming at first. But with a few hundred dollars, hours spent creating educational videos, a website, and a passion to help others, Wild Flower emerged and flourished. It has grown to not only support my boyfriend and I financially, but also to reflect the essence of who I am and what I see as the purpose of my life.
• My situation is not typical. Many sex workers, especially those who are transgender and/or people of color, are subject to even worse discrimination and treatment if they chose to leave the industry. As a society, we’re obsessed with sex workers, yet we don’t treat them as humans. We hijack their looks, use their services and imitate their work, yet don’t give them the respect they deserve. We need to do better.

Fan Questions & Feedback:

From itunes review – we have 73 5-star ratings so far. Please subscribe and leave us a review so that more people hear about the show. This review is from our femme fatale Whitney Vale.

The two ladies are not only a riot, they are whip-smart, sassy go-getters that know how to win and are helping other women do the same! They are also helping men win by teaching them how to be gentlemen again, how to approach a woman, and to leave a positive lasting impression on a date! Thank you Queen Chantel & Queen Vivian!

From: Online form on website

Subject: Prepay

Ladies, I was wondering something.  If a client prepaid for a date in full prior to the date do you think it would be considered less illegal since no money changed hands at the time of the date.  I am all about prepaying to someone I trust. It would just seem more natural. The companion wouldn’t have to worry getting stiffed or feel the need to count the cash.  Hopefully I will see Chantel again and would prefer prepayment. You might want to check with one of your legal beagle clients.

How To Stop Worrying In The New Year:

1. Your Competitors – don’t get us wrong, you can watch what they’re doing, but NEVER let it rattle you. If they are priced lower, you shouldn’t care. If they are growing and doing well, you shouldn’t care either, nor should you be scared. It’s not worth your time to worry about ladies supposedly stealing your clients, as tempting as it is, NOT! You should focus and trust your ability to market and sell yourself. In the end that will help you overcome anything. The amateur mindset is that “oh there are too many girls in my area!”. That could not be further from the truth! If you notice, every time you see a McDonalds, there’s usually a burger king or wendy’s next to it. Wendy’s and Burger king basically follow mcdonald’s all over the globe and they know that they don’t have to put McDonald’s out of business, but people change their minds and sometimes want something different to eat. The same goes for our business, even your bonafide regular will want to spend time with another companion every now and then, and vice versa, and that is completely ok! In business it is widely preached that you should study the successful and do what they are doing or at least emulate it, because it will never be exactly what they’re doing. Look at their marketing techniques, platforms, etc. Also, just because someone is priced lower than you doesn’t mean you need to undercut them. In fact you should be doing the complete opposite. If you’re competing on price, you are on the race to the bottom of the barrel. What you should be competing on is VALUE! Value is the reason why a wealthy man chooses to shop at armani instead of men’s wearhouse. So you should be studying the top tier ladies in your market and see how you can be on their level or as close to it as possible. Another perfect example is Apple; Apple is the reason why we are all walking around with $1,000 phones today. When they came out with their high priced phones, all of their competitors followed suit. Which leads me to another point, don’t worry about people copying you (as long as they are not straight up stealing your actual photos like Ms. Monet). When people are copying you, you should be excited. Because #1 it shows that your marketing and product is perceived as excellent. No one copies someone that they don’t admire and want to be like. #2 it also means that they will always be one step behind. You just stay focused on being innovative and creating better ways to sell and market yourself to your ideal clients. They can never beat you by copying you. The only way a person can “beat” you is if they make your product better in value. Focus on addressing the needs and concerns of your ideal clients and you will never lose. No more whining and complaining on Twitter, you are in charge of your life so act like it!
2. Failure – There are so many ladies that don’t even get started because they’re too busy worried about having everything just right. They ask all the questions and get all the answers but fall into what is usually referred to in the business world as “Paralysis By Analysis”. This is basically when someone is so consumed with analyzing all the steps to get started in a venture, that they are literally paralyzed and cannot make the decision to get started. Ladies, all you need is to get some professional looking photos done, get your social media set up, get a website (takenbystorm.biz has great rates for newbies), and focus on selling/marketing. It’s not rocket science. As a matter of fact one of the reasons we are writing the e-book (How to get started as an escort) is so that no one has the excuse for why they haven’t gotten started. I promise you, that you can do this on your own. You just need get educated and get out there! Just keep this in mind: focus only on activities that make you money! Failure is where the wisdom comes from because it forces you to learn and be better. All the greats failed before they became successful: J.K Rowling, Oprah, even President Trump believe it or not. The one thing all these people have in common is that they kept going even after they failed many times, and learned from their mistakes.
3. Criticism – Know this: the more successful you are, the more criticism you will receive. I mean we have critics of the show but I told Chantel from day one that we should expect them the more popular the show guests. People you don’t know will be mad at you and you should know that it has NOTHING to do with you. Get used to it, EXPECT it and it won’t phase you. And with social media as popular as it is, it has awakened a huge group widely known as trolls. Don’t feed them. Stay focused on your actual clients, your friends, family, etc. Stay focused on things that put money in your pockets. Everything else, IGNORE! Because if you get offended over every little comment, you won’t make it in LIFE! We know a lady like this and it is very sad to watch actually, but of course we stay the hell away from negativity so we wish her the best of luck!

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How To Screen Clients (Red Flags To Watch Out For)

In the final episode of 2018 Chantel and Vivian ask the most important question from the owner of a screening and advertising directory RSAVS (formerly RoomService2000). Learn the tips and tricks from an expert in screening. Let’s end 2018 on a high note and start 2019 on a safe one! Happy New Year to all of our wonderful listeners and supporters.  

Zada Freespirit

Femme Fatale December 26, 2018

Date Idea:

Vivian would like to give Tampa a chance to redeem itself as a fun city. For this date idea, Zada and Chantel can take the 3 of them, plus a generous suitor, on an unforgettable evening showing the best of Tampa. 

What’s In The News:

From the New York Post, Nov 5, 2018: The truth about men who pay for sex (By Kate Iselin who is also companion)

• All it takes is a quick look at any media featuring sex workers to see where people would get the idea that most of the clients are creeps.
• Films and TV shows cast clients as either sinister perverts who slither around in the darkness waiting for workers to attend to them with a whip and a cane, or drug-addled millionaires looking for more Barbie-lookalikes to fill their yachts with for the weekend.
• Then there’s the way sex workers are represented in the news. We’ve all seen the stock photo: a hand extended from a car window, beckoning a pair of legs toward it.
• Not only is this a misrepresentation of what sex work actually is, but it’s also dehumanizing to both the client and the companion.
• The majority of people who visit sex workers — whether they visit strip clubs, brothels, see private workers, or simply download some good, old-fashioned porn — are as normal as you and me.
• They have jobs, and hobbies, and families, and social lives, just like anyone else. Many are great conversationalists, and a huge majority are respectful, caring and kind.
• So why does the myth continue to exist? Why do we think all clients are nasty creeps? It’s the heavy stigma around sex work that carries over to our clients, too: It comes from fear. If it’s difficult for some people to comprehend being a sex worker, or seeing one, so their first instinct is judgment and fear.
• Companions provide a luxury service. Although we might be important to many, we’re are not in the same class as food, shelter and water.
• Many people envy luxury items because they can’t afford it, so they turn around and hate on it. At the end of the day, it all boils down to individuals and their ‘morals”.

Fan Questions & Feedback:

From: Online form on show’s website

Subject: New Listener fellow companion
Message: Hello Lovely Ladies,
I’m a fellow companion who is based out of Toronto Canada. I took a four year hiatus and I’ve now we re-entered the industry, I’m quite excited and a little nervous. I decided to try to find some podcasts about escorting to get inspired and to shake my nervousness and I came across yours today. I’m so happy that I found your podcast. It’s so refreshing to listen to. I just finished listening to podcast #29 and I have a question, how do you transfer money you receive while touring to different countries into your account? Do you accept cash, PayPal, etransfer etc…?
Thanks for taking the time to read this. I’m off to listen to more of your wise words!
Warm Regards

From: Online form on show’s website
Subject: Dilemma
Message Body: Hi Ladies !
I’ve been a fan of the podcast and I have been following your advice. I started escorting in London, UK in September and I’ve been doing quite well. Most of the experiences with my clients have been amazing so far. Unfortunately, my most recent client (haven’t seen him before) turned up to the booking with “snowflakes/party substances” and appeared to have used some prior to the booking. I ended the booking after an hour as I felt too uncomfortable to proceed. He paid me for two hours of my time and left without too much hassle.
Is it the norm to get clients like him? If so, what are some of the things to look out for and how can you keep yourself safe?
Kind regards

From one of our femme fatales via Twitter DM

I was wondering if you guys could touch on or even just mention that this is not how you find a mentor (I’m not even a mentor to begin with nor do I know this girl at all). “Tagging along” in appointments is so beyond odd and not discreet

Hello,

Firstly I’d like to congratulate you on the success of your podcast. As a newbie I have found it a resourceful tool in navigating the world of escorting – especially as an ebony escort.

I write this email as I am after some further advice about freestyling and how it works/differs from escorting.  I listened to episode 27 and tried to get as many tips as possible, but I am still unclear about whether or not you approach meeting men when freestyling as you would as would as an escort.

For example you mentioned never to bringing up money and to think about the long-term benefits. Do you mean freestyling at high end restaurants and hotel bars isn’t for picking up escort clients but more for sugar type arrangements? Should I be freestyling with the objective of finding men who will buy me gifts instead of giving me money for sexual services? In your opinion is the freestyling technique better at different times and days of the week? For instance,when freestyling in hotel bars should I be looking out for businessmen during the week or vacation/partygoers at the weekend in Knightsbridge/Mayfair? Can you also tell me if I should ever disclose I am an escort (business cards with my escort info) or do I make up a false profession and indicate I want to be gifted/pampered. At what point and how do I tell the men I want money/gifts – I mean how does one get the loot lol?

I apologise if my questions seem obvious, but I have been very unclear about this way of working for some time now and I see so many women on Instagram freestyling and I too want to be successful at it.

If you could offer any further advice I would really appreciate it.

Many thanks

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Rather its nervous banter or general curiosity, there are somethings a true gentleman would never ask their companion. There are million subjects you can discuss during your date be the 12 on this list are a major NO-NO! Keep your dates light hearted and keep these questions far away.

How To Be Photoshoot Ready: Conversations With A Top Glamour Photographer

Photoshoots are one of the most important aspects of your business! This episode will get you ready for your next shoot. Chantel and Vivian interview their personal photographer Paul Cabo of Sexy Lux Studios. 

Whitney Vale

Femme Fatale December 12, 2018

Date Idea:

A lovely gentleman fly Whitney, Vivian, and Chantel to New Zealand for a surfing date. 

What’s In The News:

From Star Telegram, November 8, 2018: Mother/son tried to sell dozens of girls for $2,000 each to undercover cop, feds say

• A mother/son-run “prostitution operation” was broken up in Dallas and the duo is now facing charges in federal court, according to a criminal complaint filed on Oct. 30.
• The 9-page complaint, which was unsealed this week, details an undercover operation by the Dallas Police Department to purchase more than a dozen girls for commercial sex from Daniel Mendoza Jr. and his mother, Helen Kim.
• According to the complaint, an undercover informant met with Mendoza on Sept. 14 to discuss purchasing about 18 to 20 girls for a night.
• They made a deal that the informant would get 20 girls for about four hours for multiple men. The sex would be “girlfriend experience.” The document says “the girlfriend experience in the commercial sex realm refers to sex without a condom, and that kissing is allowed during the commercial sex encounter.”
• The price, Mendoza told him, would be around $2,000 for each girl for a total of $40,000. He told the informant that the price would include the girls “doing it more than once” and that his mother, Kim, would inspect the hotel first to make sure it was safe for the girls. They also discussed the informant getting pictures of the girls, or meeting some of them in person at massage parlors or spas prior to the night.
• Kim also required that half of the money be given to her in advance, the document says.
• At the end of a meeting between Mendoza and the informant on Oct. 2, Mendoza warned that, “the way this is set up, it could be considered human trafficking,” the document says.
• Between that meeting and Oct. 5, the men negotiated Kim’s upfront payment down to $5,000, the document says.
• On Oct. 16, Kim, the informant and an undercover detective met so Kim could introduce the men to three of the girls and get the first payment. They also finalized plans for the men to have the girls on Nov. 1 from 8 p.m. to 12 a.m., the document says.
• On Oct. 24, the document says that Kim confirmed with the men that she scheduled 25 girls to be ready Nov. 1 in case some of them got sick or backed out.
• Both Mendoza and Kim were arrested last week and are charged with using a facility for interstate commerce to promote a business enterprise for prostitution.
• During their first court appearances on Nov. 2, Mendoza was given a court-appointed attorney. Kim said she would hire her own.

Fan Questions & Feedback:

Via email – Vivian posted a tweet asking clients to voice any problems they had while attempting to book a companion and this gentleman responded thoroughly via email:

Vivian had responded to his tweet stating that he had issues giving out his real life info. “What about these ladies made you uncomfortable with giving your real life info?

He wanted to remain Anonymous

Around SESTA/FOSTA time, it was pretty challenging to find a provider that I was comfortable giving screening info to. As a result, I switched over to exclusively P411 providers but even that became concerning when I suspected I was in communication with LE. Short summary below if you want to the know the details. I don’t want to make the case with just one specific instance. I try to be as objective as possible.

Many providers request real life screening info which I have no problem giving provided I can validate the provider is active on some platform (twitter, instagram, reddit, w/e). The challenge is that some providers are requesting that info with no active social media. This doesn’t apply to either of you obviously or the many that bring it up on Twitter. But as we know, even with Eros’s strict ad requirements (ID/Passport/etc), there’s still fake ads using other provider’s pictures/bios.

TSEG is a unique position to reach out to both providers and clients. Twitter is a bit of a bubble in the sense that you have providers siding with providers and clients siding with clients. Usually any debate devolves into one side vs the other with no minds changed. I don’t think any serious client has an issue with screening, but I haven’t really seen a substantive discussion about what screening means today. Times have changed. LE is receiving federal subsidies to pursue prostitution and having a website and paying for ads is probably insufficient verification for many clients going forward.

Again I’m not questioning screening practices in any way. Just pointing out that screening today is totally different than it was just a year ago. Clients are expected to do everything that we never did: give out  identifying info, real phone numbers (no burners or app numbers), place of employment, etc. There’s lot of clients (usually anonymous) on Twitter that will harass and berate a provider for requiring real life info. Often arguing that providers blur their faces and don’t use their real names. Etc. @LadyKamala has been a great advocate for extensive screening and how it’s necessary for safety. Unfortunately, I don’t think framing the discussion around the safety the provider will change many minds. Likely those clients will just move onto another provider.

However, most don’t realize that a balance has been struck on its own.  Like I mentioned earlier, there’s scammers or LE ripping off pictures/bios and even paying hundreds of dollars to post ads on Eros, making fake wix sites, etc. The only real way for a client to verify a provider is some sort of ongoing verification through social media. Providers want more detailed screening info and clients want more visibility/accountability. Hence, the huge influx of providers on twitter, instagram, etc. I think that is sufficient to convince most clients to provide identifying info. Also, there’s no reason that providers can’t monetize that new level of engagement either (niteflirt, premium snapchat, onlyfans/etc.) Maybe on the podcast, try framing the idea of screening around increased accountability/visibility on both sides rather focusing the concept of screening around provider safety exclusively.

In my case, Twitter has largely alleviated that problem of providing identifying info. It’s been a lot easier to verify a provider is real. Another big one is Wish Lists/Gift Cards. Like in your cases, I sent you both gift cards which you both redeemed and you’re both active on twitter. So I have no issues sending either of you identifying info. It’s not like LE would be able to redeem the gift card.

Assuming I haven’t scared you away, I would be happy to provide you with screening information. I see you’re both on P411.

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Short summary:

Contacted P411 provider, she asked for ID. I knew that was the norm now thanks to Twitter. I told her I would after doing some verification. She had a suspended twitter, website also removed within the last 30 days. Found an archived copy of her website and her wishlist. Sent her a gift card. She acknowledged receipt but never redeemed it. Before I can even come back and tell her I’m not able to verify her (<24 hours), she asks to confirm the time and place and no longer needed my ID. Not only that she mentioned a specific sexual act and say it was going to be X amount. I politely said I was unable to verify her and could not confirm the appointment. No response after that.

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The Advantages Of The New Tax Laws For Companions

It’s the time of the year again! That’s right, it’s tax season. Mary Lee from Companion Tax is back to let you know how to get prepared and the importance of paying your taxes. It’s time to start treating your business like a business! 

Keri Exotic

Femme Fatale December 5, 2018

What’s In The News:

CPA Practice Advisor – Sept 20,2018 – Miami Escort Service Evaded $550K in Taxes

• We reported earlier this year that Dennis Zarudny — owner of Elite Miami Escorts and Elite Escort Service — had been charged with eight counts of tax fraud in 2017.
• Well, he was just sentenced to two years in prison.
• Zarudny initially admitted to filing false corporate and personal income tax returns with the IRS in 2011, 2012, 2013 and 2014, “which substantially underreported his business income, ” courts records show.
• “Zarudny allowed his customers to pay for by cash, check, and credit card,” the U.S. Department of Justice said in a statement Friday.” He reported income from credit card transactions but did not fully report the income he received from customers who paid in cash and check.”
• As a result, the IRS took a loss of $558,772, records show.
• In addition to jail time, Zarudny will serve one year of supervised release. A court hearing to determine restitution is scheduled for Dec. 7.

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On Nov 14 LeXie0526 wrote: A not so vanilla fan: I adore this podcast and the ladies hosting it. I definitely has increased my sense of self confidence and expectations of men. I look forward to gracefully entering into a not so vanilla lifestyle. Keep up the amazing work ladies. I can’t wait for the book.

On Oct 13 eb763 wrote: Kudos to all of your hard work! I can’t thank you beautiful ladies enough! I needed this podcast in my life! Cheers! Xoxo, Kam

On Sept 19 apmemphis wrote: Thanks ladies I just want to thank you beautiful divas for sharing the knowledge of this industry, because of what I’ve learned I’ve become a better companion. I am now doing better business wise than I ever imagined possible, so once again thank you!

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Hi Vivian and Chantel,

Let me start by saying how much I adore the show! The two of you have such amazing chemistry and are so dynamic. It’s such a pleasure to listen to you intelligent, multifaceted business ladies. I now look forward to Wednesdays and they are made that much brighter thanks to you!

I dipped my toes into the world of companionship right as SESTA/FOSTA started wreaking havoc. I don’t know what the industry was like before this legislative train wreck, but your podcast has been a guiding light on how to succeed in this new-to-me world. 🙂 Recently, I have made to decision to fully dive into the industry and want to thank the both of you for giving me the tools to do so safely. I’ve learned so much from you and have also been encouraging my clients to listen and donate to the show. Thanks ladies!

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Subject: Thanks for a great show! Dear Vivian and Chantel, Over the past few weeks, I have binged through every second of the 35 episodes of TSEG. That’s 45 hours! Like any good fanboy, I wanted to write to express my appreciation for you and the amazing work that you do. (And not just by writing Thank You—I’ve made my donation, too!) You’ve taught me so much, and I am confident that I will be a better client thanks to your show. Like many clients, I started off (about 2 years ago) by reading reviews on The Board That Will Never Be Named. I didn’t know any better, and seeing multiple positive reviews on a companion gave me confidence that she was real, and would provide a good experience. Post-FOSTA, I was concerned about how I would find any new companions. Thanks to your insights and suggestions, I now see that this new world is really much better without that Board! I’ve enjoyed following different ladies on Twitter, getting to know their personalities, exploring their web sites, and I’m looking forward to making great connections and memories soon. (I haven’t booked my first post-TSEG-binge date yet.) The few companions that I have booked in the past are truly some of the most intelligent and genuine human beings that I’ve ever met. During each of my dates with a companion, I always think, Wow, I can’t believe she’s real!And I also think, I can’t believe this is so easy! All I have to do is be honest during screening, follow her instructions, treat her with respect, and be clean, courteous, and timely.The experience has always been amazing and more than worth it! Guys … it’s NOT THAT HARD!  Thanks again for the enlightening experience of listening to TSEG. Keep up the great work. And by the way, You laugh just the right amount! Thanks, -E